How To Have A Lovely Day

Be interesting. Be positive. Be your own person. Remember, dignity and confidence doesn’t flow from beauty. Beauty flows from dignity and confidence.

20 Rules

  • A few rules.

  • 1. Never stop thinking. This is important. If someone ever says to you ‘You need to stop thinking so much,’ call them ignorant in your head and keep thinking deeper. It is this mentality that breeds stupidity and sheeple. Your mind is the most important tool you have, if you stop using it, it will atrophy. Question everything.
  • 2. Stare into space blankly and don’t mentally punish yourself for doing it, even if it is for that split second. If you have a problem with staring blankly, think of it as daydreaming.
    3. Don’t be afraid to talk about anything. You shouldn’t be afraid of reality.
    4. You are all original. Every life experience is case sensitive and unique. Every time you wake up or go to the bathroom or quote someone else, you are becoming more you than anyone has ever been.

  • 5. Do pointless things. Don’t actively restrain or hide yourself from the redundant.

  • 6. Stop rushing. Shut up and embrace the sound of silence.
    7.Talking to yourself is healthy. Is there anyone that you have more in common with?
    8. There is no such thing as time. The sun never sets or rises. Days and years don’t exist. There is only your life. Earlier today you were born and death is predicted later in the evening.
    9. We will always be in a transitional phase. Look outside and know that everything will be replaced at some point. This existence is temporary.
    10. Every now and then take something that you see everyday and try to see it in a different light. Renew its existence.

  • 11. Be happy, but don’t force it.
    12. You will always succeed in trying.
    13. We are all crazy. Every person you read about in the history books had some kind of ‘disorder’, they just knew how to use it.
    14. We are all about as similar as we are different.
    15. Ideas are just as valuable as people. Why do you think we keep making people?

  • 16. Numbers don’t have to go in order.
    17. Words will always be just words. Love is just another four letter word, only the feeling is real.
  • 18. Ask a child for advice. They may not know much, but they know what is important.
  • 19. Prove you’re alive. Do anything from dancing in the supermarket to screaming during a moment of silence. Remind the world you are still here.
  • 20. Don’t take anything, even this, too seriously.

Rules found here. Fave pics of the day found here

Respecting yourself

Why is it so common that when girls get “dumped” or heartbroken they immediately blame themselves? I hate that. Someone I’m really close to was burned pretty bad by a boyfriend recently, and it frustrates me so much how easy it is for girls to switch the blame; and I’ve been guilty of doing the same. “I deserved it”, “I did this wrong”, “I should of done this better”, “I’m not good/pretty/skinny/happy/nice/whatever enough”. No. No. No. That’s not true. I need to slap myself back to reality sometimes and remind myself that no one-regardless of what they may have done-deserves to be treated as insignificant or unimportant. One thing I learned that I reminded my friend: don’t let someone try to make you feel less than you are.

My cure-all for when I’m facing a situation that makes me feel like I did something wrong or deserved to be treated in a way that was undeserved and unfair is this: spending time with your real friends. The ones who know you and respect you and push you to respect yourself. I thought I’d share the quotes on here (and with my friend) that are must-reads when you are in that mood or mindset.

My Sketts Sam, Emily and Aimee

Living with integrity means: Not setting for less than what you know you deserve. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, not just what others believe. –Barbara De Angelis

LOVE roommates Tess, Paige, Ash

“You need to believe you are worth something. Listen to yourself, set boundaries, speak up, create strong relationships, and get help when you need it…all of these actions show you respect yourself.”

Bests from high school

Real fulfillment comes from: Caring about yourself.  Appreciating your uniqueness. Respecting your needs. Exploring your passions.Helping others. Contributing. Questioning anything that doesn’t feel right. Believing in and supporting other women. Learning from rejection and mistakes and moving on. Not seeing yourself as above or below anyone else. Knowing you’re here, you’re special, and you’re in charge of your experience and choices. Doing what you know you should do.- above quotes from interview with Courtney Macavinta found here



The ultimate fab four.