lets talk instagram

let’s talk instagram!

i’m excited to share that i’ll be speaking at the wix lounge in san francisco on wednesday, march 26. wix is a platform that allows people to create their own website. they asked me to share about instagram best practices and how i use instagram to support my blog. if you’re in sf, swing by!

who: wix, eric oldrin on the creative team at instagram and myself
what: “bring your business to life with instagram” presentation
when: wednesday, march 26 at 6:30pm – 8:30pm
where:
TechShop SF: Gallery Space (901 Howard Street, SF)
rsvp:
here!

busy

on being ‘so busy’

Dear everyone, quit telling me how busy you are. I recently read this article on Harvard Business Review and was totally reminded how annoying it is when all people talk about is how busy they are. I’m guilty of it too. I’ve been too busy to meet friends for dinner, I was ‘soooo slammed’ at work, I have too much going on to do whatever I’m invited to do. The worst part is when people constantly TALK about how busy they are – how annoying is that for everyone else around? Maybe it’s a San Francisco thing, but so many people I’m surrounded by are always talking about their crazy work schedule or chaotic days and it’s way too easy for me to fall down the slippery slope of complaining about how busy I am. This article was a much-needed slap in the face encouraging me to quit complaining about how busy I am and instead, focus on so many other more important things in life. Hope you get as much out of it as I did! xo


We’re all just so “busy” these days. “Slammed” in fact. “Buried.” Desperately “trying to keep our heads above water.” While these common responses to “How are you?” seem like they’re lifted from the Worst Case Scenario Handbook, there seems to be a constant exchange, even a a one-upping, of just how much we have on our plates when we communicate about our work.

My favorite “busy” humble-brag was that of a potential client who apologized for lack of communication due to a “week-long fire drill.” What does that even mean? Does this mean there were fake fires, but not real ones, all week? Does calling it a “drill” mean that everything is okay? Is your business in flames? Should I call someone?

Then there was the date I had with a fellow who was so busy “crashing on deadlines” that he asked me to “just make a reservation somewhere” for him. I was floored.

So much of this is about out-doing each other. To say that “I’m busier than you are” means I’m more important, or that my time is more valuable, or that I am “winning” at some never-finished rat race to Inbox Zero. (Inbox Zero is another absurd contest to tackle at another time.) What you’re trying to say with these responses is: I’m busier, more in-demand, more successful.

Here’s the thing: it’s harming how we communicate, connect, and interact. Everyone is busy, in different sorts of ways. Maybe you have lots of clients, or are starting a new business, or are taking care of a newborn. The point is this: with limited time and unlimited demands on that time, it’s easy to fill your plate with activities constantly. But this doesn’t mean that you should.

To assume that being “busy” (at this point it has totally lost its meaning) is cool, or brag-worthy, or tweetable, is ridiculous. By lobbing these brags, endlessly puffing our shoulders about how “up to my neck” we are, we’re missing out on important connections with family and friends, as well as personal time. In addition to having entire conversations about how busy we are, we fail to share feelings with friends and family, ask about important matters, and realize that the “busy” is something that can be put on hold for a little while.

I am not trying to belittle anyone’s work-load in the slightest. But in using it as a one-upping mechanism, we’re failing to connect in a very substantial way. And we’re making the problem worse: When everyone around us is “slammed,” it’s easy to feel guilty if we’re not slaving away on a never-ending treadmill of toil. By trying to compete about it, we’re only adding to that pool of water everyone seems to be constantly “treading” in. And all this complaining is having serious effects on our mental health.

And yet we continue to use long hours as a sort of macho badge of honor.

We need to work smart, not (just) hard.

Just because you clocked 15 hours at your office, with likely dry eyeballs and a complete lack of focus, doesn’t mean you’ve accomplished things in a smart way. Many people have written or spoken about this. Typically, you have 90-120 minutes before you devolve into internet fodder or social media. If you’re putting in 15 straight hours at your desk, without breaks, how good is your output? How much time are you wasting?

The distinction between working hard versus smart has hit me as an entrepreneur. In high school and college I was always that girl who read all the assigned reading (and no, I was not giving you my study guide). I created outlines, outlines of outlines, and then flashcards. One of my greatest lessons as a businessperson has been to throw out that skill set. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t be diligent or that you should half-heartedly execute, but rather, that it’s crucial to know what you have to do as opposed to everything you could do. It’s about being strategic.

For once, I’d like to hear someone brag about their excellent time management skills, rather than complain about how much they can’t get done. Maybe we could learn something from each other.

Yes, we all have some strange need to out-misery each other. Acknowledging that is a first step. But next time you speak to a friend and want to lament about how busy you are, ask yourself why. Try steering the conversation away from a complain-off. With some practice you might find yourself actually feeling less “buried” (or at least feeling less of a need to say it all the time).

And maybe that’s something worth bragging about.

via Harvard Business Review

successful people are…

What are the qualities and characteristics of successful people? I’ve shared about how different people define success before {here, here and here} and really enjoyed this article by Greg Hoy recently. It was a fascinating look on what sets people apart in the workplace – and it’s not just about “doing good work.” The article focuses on personal interactions and qualities that people possess that makes them successful. While the article focused on success in the workplace, I think most of the qualities carry over into other aspects of life beyond your job.  Being appreciative and thankful will always give you more things to be thankful for. Staying humble and patient is key in all areas of life. Knowing and respecting your limits is important for a healthy and happy life.

Here’s the list from the article of qualities that successful people have:

  • They are humble. Their success doesn’t consume them.
  • They are on time. On time for work, on time for meetings, on time for the train. They hate wasting their own time, and as a byproduct, anyone else’s.
  • They always appreciate what they have. And as a result, they usually get more.
  • They are universally respectful—to their friends, their boss, or to the person that makes their sandwich for lunch.
  • They don’t let work consume them.
  • They make sacrifices for the benefit of others.
  • They are patient.
  • They put in the extra effort when it’s needed, without any strings attached.
  • They resolve issues or conflicts directly.
  • They respectfully push back. It’s easy to push back. To do so with respect takes skill.
  • They trust their colleagues.

success quote

(P)infographic

I don’t usually talk about my day job on this blog, but wanted to share a fun Pinterest infographic made by Edelman Digital.  As you know, I love Pinterest {see this post + this post} and had a lot of fun collaborating with the team on this visual. Check out the ten best practices for brands on Pinterest – they also apply to the rest of us on there! If you’re on Pinterest, find me here. Enjoy!